Friday, October 24, 2008

Comparing Ourselves


Why is it that we often fall into the trap of comparing our lives to others?

We might think like this:

"Her best friend lives next door to her, but my best friend *doesn't* live next door to me, therefore she has a better life than mine!"

(Never mind the fact that *she* has had multiple health problems since birth and has probably suffered more than you ever will.)

:<

Or maybe it's her husband that makes her life seem so enviable?

(Forget about the fact that she's already lost both her parents and she suffered cruel abuse as a child.)

:<

What is it that looks so much better than what we have?
Money?
Outward beauty?
Talent?

Discontentment is a robber!
Let's accept who we are and what the Lord has given us.
God accepts us.
Let's accept ourselves.

You my friend, are a wonderful person!
You're one of a kind and full of wonderful ways.
We don't need her life!
We need OURS.
(Let's have fun celebrating it, too!)

10 comments:

candy said...

Hi Holly :)
Thank you for all your sweet comments on my blog, I get them all and they make me smile.
You are so sweet!

This is a great post and reminder.

Hugs,
Candy

Holly said...

Hi, Candy!

Aren't smiles just so much more fun when they are shared?!

Welcome back!

~ Hearts ~

Sara's Sweet Surprise said...

Candy~ I adore your name. It makes me smile, cause it makes me think of *sweet* confections. I've been sooooo busy working on my Parisian Give Away. It was quite an undertaking. Come take a peek.

I agree as I've gotten older my thoughts tend to focus a bit to much on others youth. Leaving me at times fixated on, my, gray hair, wrinkles and how gravity seems to be affecting my body. I should be embracing the fact all these are signs of aging are reminders of a life well lived.
*Sweet Wishes*!
Sara

Holly said...

Thanks for coming by, Sara! I love getting older- seriously!

I know I've been to your blog before. I'll have to check out your give away!

I'll take your sweet wishes if you take my hearts!

~ Hearts ~

SweetAnnee said...

you are so right
it is a robber
I love my life.
tis perfect and just as God planned

much love

Holly said...

Good morning, Deena! Thanks for coming by! I love visitors.

I don't like robbers, do you? They can be so sneaky! :<

G-rrrrr!

~ Hearts ~

The Little Miss said...

I think the problem is that the devil loves to wisper and sometimes shout haha our falts and or remind us of past sins. So when we look on the surface of someone elses lives we think that they have it all! The past 2 years has been the hardest ever in my life. Lots of changes. WE decided to move to Idaho from San diego. WE moved up there and my mom decided that she couldnt stand living without her grandchild near and moved up to. It messed everything up because she was a teacher. She had to resign from San diego and try to get a job there. She did and everything was good. My dad stayed in SAn diego to try to sell their house. Thats when the house market just started to get really bad. He didnt sell it and we wondered why God was moving us all up there. We moved and were starting to settle down and my dad drove up (about 14 hours) non stop . He had cut his leg in an concrete accident and decided to drive up anyways. He arrived on a sat. On monday he couldnt breath and we took him to the hospital. Tuesday they said he had lots of blood clots. Thursday they said he was getting better and they werent worried. friday he died.

WE were all stuck in idaho (new climite, new everything) and without a father, grandpa, husband. We didnt understand why God would lead us there to have that happen. We all decided that we would go back to Cali. My mom finished the school year and moved back to the house in SD that never sold. WE moved back and stayed in the hosue. Thinking God would provide a job for her really fast. With all the budget cuts no one wanted to higher her because she was too exspensive eventhough she knows 3 languages. It was 2 long years of struggling to know what in the world God was doing. Why in the world he would move us there to have my dad die and to move us back. It was 2 years thinking we were going to lose the house and not be able to go anywhere. To many bills, to many everything. My mom interviewed everywhere! And she was too exspensive. Right when we thought she would get hired they didnt.

About a month ago a princble called my mom saying that one of her teachers got a brain tumor and needed my mom to take over for the rest of the school year.

2 years!!!!!!! 2 years!!!!!!!

Its been hard on me. I just felt like God jus must of not cared about us. It went from having lots of faith that yes hes going to provide (and he did...just not as fast or the way I wanted him too).

Eventhough my mom got the job I still am having a hard time trusting God and just letting og and letting him do it! Im trying

I guess now that everything happened I can breath better instead of just holding it in. I can stop and really grasp that my dads gone because Im not dealing with it all!

aiaiaiai!!!!!!!!!!!

Im glad I meet you and you have these lovely encouragment onhere!!!

xoxox

Holly said...

Oh, Priscila sweetie, I'm so sorry about your dad! What a shock... May the Lord carry your grief for you so that you can bear it and brethe even easier! Your poor mom, too! Oh, life can be so, so very hard at times... Just let it all pour out to the Lord- we can be honest with Him.

I lost my mom when I was in my early 20s but I was expecting it because it was a long illness. I was a Mama's girl though so it was still really hard. I miss her so.

We've gone through several strange moves ourselves- including our move here and I still wonder, "Why, Lord?" I might never know and you might not ever know about your Idaho move either. But God knows.

I'm not sure how it is that I'm so convinced of the goodness of God and His love toward me even in the midst of hard times but I am. I guess it's just because He's *SO* real to me. He revealed His love to me and continues to reveal that love. I wouldn't want to live without it!

I'm praying for you, Priscila and I'm glad you opened up about what's going on in your life. I love it when people can be real with each other. Sometimes, that *real* is confusion and grief. Sometimes it's a happy dance and baby talk! ~ Wink ~ But whatever the case, I'm glad to know you and to share our lives together! I love ya, girl!

~ Hearts ~

Angela Harris said...

It's so refreshing to hear such beautiful words spoken to such beautiful photos of vibrant works of art. You're right about "Wipes" the cat. My son might just change it I'm not sure Snowball is sticking :)

Holly said...

Thanks for coming by Angela!

Hmmm... I wonder if "wipes" could transform into being "whites" instead? :> You're doing a good job, Angela!

Enjoy your fall day!